Cousin Marriage is controversial, but why?
Legality of Cousin Marriage between Hindu couples is very much controversial in India. Most of the people do not want to talk about it. However, just because you don’t wanna see something doesn’t mean it does not exist. A whole generation is asking questions and here are some answers. The problem with the legality of Cousin Marriage starts with Prohibited Degree of Relationships.
What is Prohibited Degree of Relation?
Well, way back in 1955 lawmakers of our country were not so open minded. They were fighters, true, but most of them were fighters for land and recognition. Don’t get me wrong. I truly respect the guys who took us from one sh***ole and dropped us in an another one, but I truly hate the people who never tried to fix the things they should have in the first place. Anyway, while creating the Hindu Marriage Act they wanted to limit the definition of marriage. To make sure that the Hindu Marriage Act stays different from the Muslim Law and others, they created the degree of prohibited relationship. Few founders of our nation were the fundamentalist to their guts. The Prohibited Degree of Relationship contains 33 Relationships that cannot Marry to each other. From Father-Daughter and Mother-son to few generations of your parents cannot marry among each other.
Why did they do this?
The question should be why we are still doing this. But history prevails the truth.
Let’s go back few decades and look at general India family structure. What do you see? There would be only one thing persisting in the face, JOINT FAMILIES. For the confused folks, Joint Families are the institution where people for same ancestral lineage co-exist in the same house. In such families, the wealthiest man is the strongest one and oldest one is the Supreme One. Back in the time, when Joint Families existed everywhere, the people of same ancestral lineage lived in the same house, so did their kids.
In our Indian Culture we believe in planned breeding… wait a minute, it is not the right word, we believe in Controlled Breeding. Controlled Breeding is same like dog-breeding in the pet-store. If you wonder that I’m wrong, go and look into a matrimonial page of any newspaper. Yep, that’s controlled breeding where only the masters can decide with whom their dogs… I mean kids, can sc**w. That’s not as same as controlled breeding in reality because we have exceeded 120 Crore in number but our quality is as usual sub-standard.
Anyway, in such scenario where we only worry about who is born but not what they will become, the kids in the same house may exceed too many in number.
Somehow, most parents succeed in ramming one fact down their kids throat that everyone they see is their brother/sister. We call each other brother and sister and that’s not bad at all. Better if our kids have these feeling in their heart (somehow that will control our population crisis, everyone is brother-sister means no breeding). It is the same thing happened with our parents. They used to call each other brother and sister even though there wasn’t any true blood relationship between them at all. Till this, there is no problem. Somehow, parents believe that because they were brothers their kids should also treat each other as brother and sister.
In the back age, when cousins lived together till their adolescence the fact that they are brother and sister sink in and digested. Somehow, now when families have been disintegrated and everyone lives far from each other, sometimes truth weigh more than the made out fact, i.e., COUSINS ARE NOT BROTHERS AND SISTERS.
But this is not the end of story. There is still friction between old and young. That’s why there is devil’s like Lover Killing/Female Genocide (maliciously called Honor Killing). But just claiming something doesn’t make it right. There is an explanation of how cousins are not brother and sister.