Lawful Safety Guide for Eloping Lovers

In India, the next level of love is eloping. Many of us believe in convincing our parents for love marriage but parents never live up with our dream. Mindless and bogus issues like religion, country, language, race, color, caste, creed, locality, punctuality, hair color, cloth color, teeth color, eye color and 1 million other issues are always made up by your parents and their shameless relatives (like brother of your uncle’s brother-in-law) to stop you love marrying. The thing is when you just want cheap sex in the name of marriage, nobody goes against you, but whenever you want to marry because you love somebody the whole world goes against you.

In such situation, people resigned to eloping. Eloping is good. It’s good to live your dream with your soulmate rather than with a horde of savage social animals we call well-wishers and relatives (What word do you use for a person who married for the free maid and cheap SEX?). But there is always a risk in eloping. People get killed or get arrested for rape (mostly male lovers).

To sort out this problem, we have prepared a walkthrough guide for your lawful eloping. Remember people, this guide was prepared while keeping Parallel Cousin Marriages in Mind. If this guide can work with them, it will definitely work with you.

How to safely Elope?

Eloping may mean “marrying secretly” but for this guide “ELOPING MEANS MARRYING WITHOUT FEARING PARENTS”. Follow these simple milestones for safe eloping:-

First Milestone

Given below are five simple elements of safe love marriage:-

  • Adulthood Evidence: – Aadhar Card, Ration Card, 10th Marksheet, PAN Card which can show your age. 18 for Girls, 21 for Boys.
  • Your Money in the Bank: – As much as you can hold. The Bigger amount, the better.
  • A Job: – Bigger pay, the better.
  • Modest and broadminded thinking: – The essence of loving.
  • Connection with other lovers around the country: – Lovers in the locality are better.

If any one of the above-noted element is missing then bag that as soon as you can. Remember, a big amount at the bank is not necessary but money is the oil of love machine, keep enough of this oil in reserve for a successful love life.

Second Milestone

If you are a woman, you should have guts to tell parents what you wants. This will be simple if you have financial independence and enough brain to filter craps like culture and Sanskaari s**t. The process of convincing your parents may get really ugly, and parents reaction can go even uglier than you might even imagine. You should keep a backup plan. If they lock you in a room, just break through the window, burn down the goddamn house and reach the mass media. Then file a Habeas Corpus writ under Article 226 of Constitution of India. According to law, a person (even your parents) cannot restrain you in any house. In a Supreme Court case an underage girl, who was subject to abuse of her parents, was allowed to live with her Grandmother. If an underage girl can claim her freedom from abuse, so can you.

Third Milestone

If a woman is leaving her house to live with her cousin, please secure your birth evidence and your educational certificates and file an application before a Judicial Magistrate, affixing a photocopy of your birth evidence (like PAN Card, 10th Marksheet, Driving License, Aadhar Card). The application can have title stating “For Permission to Live-in-Relationship”. According to law, even the Judge cannot allow you to marry your cousin lawfully (unless your customs say so), but this application will keep your lover off the trouble. Parents are shamelessly filing rape cases against the male lovers.

Fourth Milestone

If the parents or any dumb relative (like your distant or real uncle) are harassing you, file a writ under Article 226 of Consitution of India. If they can act badly against you, do the same to them, give them the taste of their own s**t. I know you’ll be called bad kids, but you are not a kid anymore. You are an adult person who is being harassed for loving, meanwhile, the whole goddamn world is taking the side of the offender (not a big surprise, though, they are all dumbhead f**kers). Take some action or play dead.

Fifth Milestone

If your parents do not do anything nasty after you leaving their house, write an emotional letter, say few words of truth and formally and officially invite your parents to your marriage. This means you have to send them the marriage card, via registered post. Keep the receipt of registered postal order, it will be the proof of your lawful cousin marriage. If your parents don’t turn up on your marriage day, you’ll claim your legal marriage certificate as they gave their silent approval to your relationship.

That’s it. Happy Married Life. Send us your story, we’ll send you a greeting every anniversary of your love marriage.

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Legal side of Cousin Love and Cousin Marriage

Is cousin marriage all right? It is a big question in the Indian Society. Are they okay or not is a matter of discussion. Some people (mostly fundamentalist or Manuvadi) claims it as a sin against nature and the god. We are not god (as manager of the gods will say) but we are the god of our own life. In recent times, we have seen so many clandestine and openly discussed a way of living that our society is overwhelmed by it.  However, the society is not law, neither a lawyer, bloody hell society is not a person either. So why should blindly trust and listen to something which has no brain or heart?

kissing-cousins

But we live in a well-structured net of laws. It protects, prohibits some and punish. Whatever we are going to do must be done after looking into the laws. The laws can make it right or awfully wrong. So let’s have a look at the law relating to the cousin marriage.

What Law Says about Cousin Marriage

Alas! Law says nothing about Cousin Love. Even the law doesn’t even used the word cousin in the first place. In India, there are two Marriage Laws, The Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 and Special Marriage Act, 1954. Both laws have virtually made a prohibition on the Cousin Marriage.

Few of you folk might not know what a prohibition is. In law, prohibition means something that should not be done. But there are exceptions. In India Dowry Prohibition Act has been laid down but 99.9% of Indian Marriages are done with Dowry. In the same way, Hindu and Special Marriage Act has laid down a term named “Prohibited Degree of Relationship”.

This Degree of Relationship exists only in Hindu, Sikh, Jain and Buddhist. There is an exception to this Prohibition is the customs of the family, religion, sect or society permits the cousin marriage. Our question is who are they to decide who should marry who?

The Younger generation is sensitive, angry, fool, smart all at the same time, but one thing about the younger generation is better than the last, younger generation cannot tolerate a wrong doing like their ancestors did. Though the Youngsters have their right to choose who they want to spend their life with, they should not ignore the law. At least, the younger generation should understand the law before taking their brave steps. When all the door is closed, the law remains a way to achieve the truth. That why awareness about the law is absolutely necessary. Please continue to the next post:-

Legality of Cousin Marriage and the big friction-Part-2

How Cousin Love and Cousin Marriage became taboo?

Cousin Marriage is controversial, but why?

Legality of Cousin Marriage between Hindu couples is very much controversial in India. Most of the people do not want to talk about it. However, just because you don’t wanna see something doesn’t mean it does not exist. A whole generation is asking questions and here are some answers. The problem with the legality of Cousin Marriage starts with Prohibited Degree of Relationships.

What is Prohibited Degree of Relation?

Well, way back in 1955 lawmakers of our country were not so open minded. They were fighters, true, but most of them were fighters for land and recognition. Don’t get me wrong. I truly respect the guys who took us from one sh***ole and dropped us in an another one, but I truly hate the people who never tried to fix the things they should have in the first place. Anyway, while creating the Hindu Marriage Act they wanted to limit the definition of marriage. To make sure that the Hindu Marriage Act stays different from the Muslim Law and others, they created the degree of prohibited relationship. Few founders of our nation were the fundamentalist to their guts. The Prohibited Degree of Relationship contains 33 Relationships that cannot Marry to each other. From Father-Daughter and Mother-son to few generations of your parents cannot marry among each other.

Full list of Degrees of Prohibited Degree of Relationship

Why did they do this?

The question should be why we are still doing this. But history prevails the truth.

Let’s go back few decades and look at general India family structure. What do you see? There would be only one thing persisting in the face, JOINT FAMILIES. For the confused folks, Joint Families are the institution where people for same ancestral lineage co-exist in the same house. In such families, the wealthiest man is the strongest one and oldest one is the Supreme One. Back in the time, when Joint Families existed everywhere, the people of same ancestral lineage lived in the same house, so did their kids.

In our Indian Culture we believe in planned breeding… wait a minute, it is not the right word, we believe in Controlled Breeding. Controlled Breeding is same like dog-breeding in the pet-store. If you wonder that I’m wrong, go and look into a matrimonial page of any newspaper. Yep, that’s controlled breeding where only the masters can decide with whom their dogs… I mean kids, can sc**w. That’s not as same as controlled breeding in reality because we have exceeded 120 Crore in number but our quality is as usual sub-standard.

Anyway, in such scenario where we only worry about who is born but not what they will become, the kids in the same house may exceed too many in number.

Somehow, most parents succeed in ramming one fact down their kids throat that everyone they see is their brother/sister. We call each other brother and sister and that’s not bad at all. Better if our kids have these feeling in their heart (somehow that will control our population crisis, everyone is brother-sister means no breeding). It is the same thing happened with our parents. They used to call each other brother and sister even though there wasn’t any true blood relationship between them at all. Till this, there is no problem. Somehow, parents believe that because they were brothers their kids should also treat each other as brother and sister.

In the back age, when cousins lived together till their adolescence the fact that they are brother and sister sink in and digested. Somehow, now when families have been disintegrated and everyone lives far from each other, sometimes truth weigh more than the made out fact, i.e., COUSINS ARE NOT BROTHERS AND SISTERS.

But this is not the end of story. There is still friction between old and young. That’s why there is devil’s like Lover Killing/Female Genocide (maliciously called Honor Killing). But just claiming something doesn’t make it right. There is an explanation of how cousins are not brother and sister.

Legality of Cousin Marriages and the big friction-Part-3

How to marry Cousin Love legally?

Marrying cousin love legally is the matter of patience and power. In this case, knowledge and money are the two essential powers you can have. The problem cousin lovers face is prejudice. The world is fairly unfair with cousin lovers. In the last two posts of this series, we discovered how our ancestors have fed us with the notion that cousins are brother and sister. It is not true, truth is completely different from what they have taught us. It is really necessary if we clear ourselves with the truth.

Who are brother and sister?

Brother and sister mean a person of opposite sexes, born out of the same mother. In this case, if your mothers are different but the father is same, then you are step-relative, even then you are not true brother-sister at all. That why there is notion like a real brother and the cousin or step-brother/sister. This is a true hard fact to sink in after ages of lies. The person who has not born out of your mother’s womb is nothing to you. Take your time, folk, the fact will sink in with difficulty. Our ancestors have used lies to bend the truth that’s why they were Hypocrites.

This is the depth of our problem!

It all because of money. Yes, folks, it is all because of money. Back in time, when people started earning property they also figured out a way to keep the property to themselves. Though they died but they made a law that the property will be transferred to their blood relatives. If a person dies issueless (without any offspring or child), his/her property will be divided to the next close person in his/her ancestry. Means, if I die without a child, my property will be transferred to my sister/brother and if I’m the lone survivor of my parents, the property will be transferred to the kids of my uncle/aunt.

This system has a particular flaw that has hooked up with the society. Because the property normally transferred to the brother-sisters, we have recognized our cousins as brother and sisters. That’s why there are words like cousin-brother and cousin-sister, but the truth is THERE IS NO SUCH WORD LIKE COUSIN-BROTHER OR COUSIN-SISTER, THERE IS ONLY COUSIN.

So how can I marry cousin love legally?

Depends on by which way you decide to marry your cousin. Since the law has made a prohibition, it also made an exception. The marriage law has accepted any marriage that goes on with the customs of your community, group, caste, creed, and family. IF YOUR PARENTS GIVE THEIR CONSENT ON YOUR MARRIAGE YOU CAN CLAIM IT AS A VALID MARRIAGE. Remember, customs can be made. All it requires a good money in your pocket and right words with your parents. Otherwise, you can go away and start a new family.

What happens if my parents raise an objection?

Well, in such case you cannot marry with your cousin. It is really a s***ed-up country we are living in, guys. CONSTITUTION HAS DENIED US RIGHT TO CHOOSE LIFE PARTNER. That’s the way it is. Most politicians in our country are basically criminals, frauds and illiterate (saving for few left out of the most). Only a few people might know that in the month of October 2008 LAW COMMISSION RECOMMENDED REMOVAL OF COUSINS FROM DEGREE OF PROHIBITED RELATIONSHIP (report No. 212). The Government worked but Politicians slept in their comfortable Government funded Houses.

The bottom line is Cousin Marriages are prohibited ab initio, but hey Dowry is also prohibited, right? So you can marry your cousin but better make your parents ready for this. At least, make sure that they won’t interfere with your happy married life.

Please read out the last post of this series:-

How to convince parents for marrying Cousin love

How to convince your parents for cousin love marriage?

No matter how hard the truth is, it always prevails. And the truth is, for happy cousin marriage life you need to convince your parents. However, there are other ways to live happily with your cousin.

It is an old saying:-

 Whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.

People are dying to get married. Alas! Same goes with the lovers. But those who has gone far above the basic of human mentality doesn’t care if the marriage ever happens in their life. In the same way, if you are dying to get marry with your cousin, maybe you’ll be dead someday somehow. The thing is, never succumb to basics and you can achieve more.

First of all, before you convince your parents for cousin love marriage, you need to face the truth that your cousin is not your sister/brother and you’ll openly tell this to everyone on their face. If they threaten you with the law that prohibits cousin marriage, tell them that you don’t care. But this will happen only when you go above marriage thing, and believe me, this will make you stronger. The Legality of Cousin Marriages is a problem existing only between Hindus, Jains, Sikhs and Buddhist. The major religions in the world don’t have such restriction. However, when there is a problem, there is a remedy.

It’s simple guys, follow the truth!

Yes, guys. Though, cousin marriages are prohibited and that simply means that you cannot have a marriage certificate from the Marriage Registrar Offices of the country (same doesn’t apply to foreign marriage registrar offices). However, you can live as long as you want to live with your cousin. You can have kids, have a family, have your house and etc. In short, the marriage has no value if you have enough love, money and broad mind. But if you’re not convinced with living-in-relationship, we have a breakthrough solution.

Invite your parents to your marriage, convince your parents

Here you go. This is the brave people stuff, so scaredy cats can go back, curl up into a ball and sleep to the end of the world.

Before everything you do with moving ahead in love life, have money making career in your pocket, enough bank balance to start afresh, bravery which won’t end and of course, the love which has passed all subtle tests of love. If your lover is not financially independent like you then ask your lover to be financially independent and even help him/her. There are many ways to test your love and some of them are really helpful.

Know How to test if your lover loves you most!!!

The thing is, in love your own commitment matters more over the commitment of your lover. Anyway, you’ll love him/her, even if he/she won’t. My advice, if your lover has truly loved you for a once is your long relationship, pursue him/her to the end of your life. If it is one-sided love (under any situation), just ask him/her if he/she feels the love for you (finish the suspense).

The hardest task on the whole planet is becoming financially independent. Nowadays, it is even harder. Meanwhile, your lover is building his/her career, you do same with yours. If your lover is already earning member, he/she must help you to become one too, this is what lovers suppose to do. Remember, if the parents show any violent behaviour, you can immediately leave with your lover.

P.S. Anyone reading this post must read LAWFUL SAFETY GUIDE FOR ELOPING LOVERS

But better safe than sorry!

Conclusion

Whenever I look at love lives I find one thing:-

“Love is not an act or a status, it is life and life is hard.”

Yes, folks, you can live-in-relationship with your cousin but you should get ready for any kind of lawsuit against you. In current time, parents have grown di*ks themselves, literally (one of them actually possess one). Parents are not even ashamed to lodge false rape case against you if you marry to their daughter. However, when there is a problem, there is a solution.

Though constitution does not allow you to choose your soulmate, you can live with him/her without interruption. If somebody threat your personal liberty that you can file a writ petition under article 226 of Constitution of India for stopping the arrest of your lover and show courts that you willingly took his side and do not want to live with your parents anymore.

Author’s Advise-Cum-Disclaimer to Cousin Lovers

If you are a woman and wants to marry your cousin, that’s all right. But be sure of few things:-

  • You are financially independent. Before anything, make this for sure.
  • You are brave to face any situation.
  • You have to test the love of your partner. Remember, people always betray those who trust them. Never be naive.
  • You are mentally and physically strong enough to save yourself from general situation. There are people looking for a weak woman for making her suicide bomb and/or sex worker. Never trust someone you haven’t known deeply. And also, keep knife or paperweight for your protection. If you don’t have them you can easily find a stone or something like that from nearby. Don’t worry, you can even kill someone to protect yourself.

Read: – You have right to protect yourself

  • Make sure to have a good lawyer in touch. If you are planning to leave your parents house, secretly or independently, you may likely to file a writ petition for peaceful life in your future.
  • Make sure to have contact with other lovers in the world and also in the nearby places. In the technology prominent that’s not hard to find, is it?
  • Anything that came up in your head to make your own safety should be done at once. Remember, your enemy only needs your ignorance to harm you. In this case, your enemy, who are your own relative, know you better and can hurt you worse.

Be safe, be lawful and keep loving!!!

How the “Marriage” was made legal obligation?

Intro

It is a very well-known fact that as an Indian we have our best faith in one particular institution i.e., Marriage. It is not an original device for consummating as sex is quick, easy, affordable and fun. Nowadays, marriage is becoming a very big problem in most of the world, in this case, a particular type of marriage we know by the name of Arrange Marriage. It is being a big debate on the matter that who has invented such complex institution for something so much natural. Few says about marriage as a sacred bonding between two souls which we know is the completely childish thing to get into the mind in the first place.

History of Marriage

Who done it?

Answer. We don’t know. Who invented marriage is the question we should ask in the last. The culprit who has died a long ago cannot be punished in the first place. Rather our question should be why the marriage was created. To know the origin the concept of marriage, we must go back in time when the earth was born out of the supernova named Adishakti… just kidding, we only go back to few thousand years back.

So, why they created this?

About few thousand years ago there was no institution of marriage in any part of the world. At that time, the only way to consummating was mutually agreement or rape. Women were not so deprived of any rights as there was no right but justice, Mother Nature’s most brutal rule survival of the fittest was the law and judgment. Scientific evidence tells that ancient people worshipped Chalice or Vagina. It is clear that women were the dominant species of human society, not housewives as we reserve them now for. The depiction of Athena with Bow and arrow clearly shows that women were more intelligent, sophisticated (and no doubt more beautiful) than man who believed that a ton weighting sword will save them in the battle and arrow somehow miss their a**. Since woman were gods in time back then, they had full right to mold the society in a good form of structure. They invented science, devised stone crafting and gave man few rights (the ultimate mistake).

Why did they do it?

Among many rights, men were given a right to adhere the deity they want to. Man cleverly (wait a minute… it means men do have some brain, awesome) start worshiping penis or phallus. Henceforth came into existence holy s**t and holy trinity. Next the Primo Mafiosi planned a full wipe out of all the traces of matriarchy. Hence, the Mohanjoddaro and Harappan civilisation ended.

After genocide and enslavement of woman, queens reign ended and the king took the spot. To present matriarchy resurfacing again, men always planned better than women. The right to have education, right to select the man for consummating, right to speak in the public, and many other rights were forfeited. In this conspiracy one particular right that was forfeited. This particular right made woman substandard species to their counterpart, men. However, Judiciary has given this right back to the women by Allahabad High Court in full. This particular right named: RIGHT TO PROPERTY AND INHERITANCE.

You may be looking for a reason to deny truths given above. No wonder, we have patriarchy society for way too long. This patriarchy has been mixed in our blood. Somehow, we have reason to debunk myths. You may be wondering how Right to property and Inheritance is linked to marriage. Let you brain do some guess and read our next story.

Why was the “Marriage” made legal obligation?

Degree of Marriage

Two persons are said to be within the “degrees of prohibited relationship”

  1. if one is a lineal ascendant of the other;
  2. if one was the wife or husband of a lineal ascendant or descendant of the other
  3. if one was the wife of the brother or of the father’s or mother’s brother or of the grandfather’s or grandmother’s brother or the other
  4. if the two are brother and sister, uncle and niece, aunt and nephew, or children of brother and sister or of two brothers or of two sisters.
    Explanation:- for the purposes of clauses (6) and (7) relationship includes-
  5. relationship by half or uterine blood as well as by full blood;
  6. illegitimate blood relationship as well as legitimate;
  7. relationship by adoption as well as by blood; and all terms of relationship in those clauses shall be construed accordingly.